When all else fails... Tell the TRUTH! (Admit it part 2)

My mom used to have this saying... Well I think it is a general saying in the south, "when all else fails, tell the truth". I used to laugh like crazy when she would say that, because I have seen a lot of people resort to that. You try lying, but start getting caught up. So you lie some more, and that still doesn't work. After a while you start to feel like you're cornered. So what do you do?? Normally, it's right about there that you get this kind of comment, "alright, I did it" or "so what, maybe that did happen", or "I had no choice", etc. So only when ALL ELSE fails, do most people tell the truth.

But that is completely the wrong way of dealing with things. I was reading something a few months ago about "why" people lie. And the truth (no pun intended) is that most people lie to protect themselves. They lie because the are afraid to face the consequences of telling the truth. But you can't escape consequences. They have a funny way of finding you anyway. So stop running from them and face them. Realize that if you did something you need to suck it up and deal with what you've done. Point blank.

This idea of somehow escaping the truth is crap.

So don't wait until "all else fails"...

just TELL THE TRUTH.

Truth- It hurts going down, but is better than a lie

Would you rather be lied to, if it would make you feel better? Or would you rather hear the truth, no matter how much it hurt?

That one is a toughie for many of us.

Why?

Because on one hand, no one likes to hear bad news, or correction. But on the other hand, just because someone lies to you in order to spare you for the moment, doesn't mean that you will not have to feel the pain later.

It is much better to feel the pain now, than deal with an even bigger and far worst sting later. I know I am no different from any of you, and I hate to hear harsh words as well. But the fact is, I would much rather hear the truth than the lie. Tell me what you feel. Tell me if you don't like something. Tell me if I offended you. Tell me if you did something I won't like. Heck, tell me you don't care what I think! But please, please, don't lie to me. I hate being lied to, because the truth is so much easier in the end.

So if any of you are anything like me, you will share this with someone else who needs to be reminded that the truth is always better than the lie.

Don't Sugar-Coat it...

I don't know about all of you who read this, but I know about me...

When someone has something to say to me, I would rather they say it straight, just like it is, than to beat around the bush. I know it doesn't feel good to hear things raw and uncut, but it is far better than someone trying to smile in your face, whilst feeling something in their heart.

That just doesn't make sense.

And worst than holding it in, is to sugar-coat it so that it sounds softer or easier to swallow. I can't stand that! If you have a problem, just say it already. Don't act like it is smaller than what it really felt like to you. I may not like or agree with what you are saying, but I want to know that that is how you feel.

And a real man or woman is like this; they don't look for the softest way out. They are strong enough to take the punch and keep their head up. I believe this is the best type of person to deal with. The one that will give you the truth, even when it hurts, and mean the absolute best by doing it.

You just need to be tough enough to take it. So you who are reading this, should stop being soft and sensitive and grow some thicker skin. Take what is dished out and deal with it. You will become stronger and better by doing that.