Wednesday, December 19, 2012
Friday, November 16, 2012
I saw them tearing a building down,
a group of men in a busy town.
With a hefty blow and a lusty yell,
They swung with zest,
and the sidewall fell.
I asked the foremen,
"are these men skilled?
The kind you would hire,
if you had to build?"
He looked at me, and laughed,
Unskilled labor is all I need.
Why, they can wreck in a day or two,
What has taken builders years to do."
I asked myself, as I went my way,
which of these roles have I tried to play?
Am I a builder with rule and square,
measuring and constructing with skill
Or am I the wrecker, who runs
content with the business
of tearing down?
Thursday, November 8, 2012
When I was in South Africa last month, I absolutely loved the people. They were very warm and very open to talk about their lives and their difficulties.
But in the midst of that their openness, they revealed things that were absolutely heartbreaking.
Us in the U.S. can not imagine what many of them face there. I know we have some very awful crimes and people who do horrible things as well. But what I found there was shocking.
Can you imagine a place where about 1 in 3 girls have been raped. A place where around 1 in 4 or 5 have HIV. And why do many have it, because they were raped by someone with HIV. Just the way that I heard they stalk and rape their victims was so horrible. At least in the US the authorities will really go after people who rape or kill, etc. There they say many times the police do nothing, because it happens so much.
What is my point???
When you past that person on the street, who looks sad and frustrated... do you ever wonder what they may be going through? Do you wonder what they faced that day or recently?
I heard the story of a women who was raped by 19 men continuously over the course of one week. I can not even stomach to go into details of all that happened. I don't even think it would be appropriate to put on the blog. It would be too graphic. But just imagine what she went through being tied on a bed and continuously raped for one week?
Then maybe a person would pass her on the street and she happens not to speak and they say "what's her problem?" She has a big attitude problem! Not knowing that she has been through HELL the day before.
The heartbreaking reality is that we live in a world where most people could care less about what's happening with others. Most people are only concerned about themselves. It is almost shocking when we find someone who is caring, considerate, giving, kind, etc.
What was once the norm, has become somewhat alien.
So what about you and me? How should we look at those we see day to day?
I think we should always bear in mind what others are going through. Don't be quick to assume that you know what is in a persons mind. Because you don't. You should be careful before attacking people, or drawing assumptions about them.
Remember, what if the shoe was on the other foot, and it was you feeling down that day? How would you want others to treat you?
Friday, November 2, 2012
Here is a video that I never got the chance to upload, because of internet issues. But i want to share it with you, because it goes along with my conversation about misconceptions. Check it out. It is less than 3mins. Think about it.
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Here is an exert from a great book that I read called Joseph:
"This message is addressed to the successful, to the up-and-coming executive, to the man or woman on the way to the top of the heap, to the individual who is experiencing the benefits of and favor of God, to the person who is reaping the benefits of increased PRIVACY and TRUST.
Adversity (hardship, affliction or misfortune) is sometimes hard upon a man, but for one man who can stand prosperity, there are a hundred that can stand adversity.
The temptations that accompany prosperity are far greater (and far more subtle) than those that accompany adversity."
Point: It's good to fight for success, but when you're becoming successful or have reached success, you better watch out, because the "temptress" is waiting toward the top of the ladder. Planning a way to knock you down.
Friday, October 26, 2012
Friends, how important it is for us to communicate properly and correctly.
I did not write this, but I had to share it. This one is great.
Check it out.
- Taken from: http://www.renatocardoso.com/en/means-of-internal-communication/
Saturday, October 20, 2012
Where is this tree?
I mean, what city, state or country......?
As I was saying a few days ago in my last post, we people have some strange misconceptions about many places in the world. We like to judge things based on what the media or on what others say. But many times we have not even gathered enough info (I mean rock solid info) to make a fair judgement. And that is what leads to misconceptions or wrong impressions of people, places and things.
The one area of misconception that I wanna focus on today is with people. Many times a person draws an opinion about a person based on what someone else told them about that person. But they never even took the time to get to know that person for themselves. They haven't checked if the other persons information is true or not. They are not really 100%, but they act like they are.
Who gives us the right to draw up conclusions about others? Who told you that you know the whole story because you've heard a little bit? How dare you think that you can say a person has done this or that, or is like this or that, if you don't even know them.
We need to be more careful. Because just like we can be misinformed by the media... We can for sure be misinformed by other people.
And that can lead to MAJOR misconceptions.
Just think about it.
Sunday, October 14, 2012
Since I arrived in Africa over a week ago, I have dealt with this issue quite a lot.
I have come to realize that we so often draw conclusions based on huge misconceptions. It's actually really sad the way we can see a small piece of the picture and assume we know the whole story.
I for one know I am guilty of this.
Just for example, for my whole life I thought (please don't laugh at me) that Africa was so so poor that there was nothing nice there. I thought that only South Africa had "some" good things. But the rest of the country, I was sure had only dirt roads, and people walked or drove the worst cars in the world. And that there would be lions and giraffes all in the middle of the streets, and many other things. But it wasn't because I imagined all of these things, or wanted to judge the country wrong. It's because of what I've always seen in the media.
They paint a picture that everyone in Africa is starving and dying and that there is nothing good there. But that is a bunch of garbage. I saw many beautiful things and places in just three countries so far. And by the way Windhoek and Gaborone in Namibia and Botswana had roads that were more organized and clean and neat that many American roads.
Take a look. This is Namibia behind me. Does it look horrible?
Again, does this look horrible?
Here is the city center of Maputo, Mozambique. Are these dirt roads?
So the point is, that it was a total misconception. Of course there are some people struggling and hungry, but that is not the majority in some countries of Africa.
So what is the main point of this...
That I will tell you in the next post. Just know that it will be worth reading.
For now, I would just like to say sorry to all the African people and to the country itself for judging wrongly.
For now, I would just like to say sorry to all the African people and to the country itself for judging wrongly.
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Check this post out. It's definitely worth a read. Nice pics and a good video.
In the kitchen with Elise: Being welcomed by Mozambique: For this 'Shoulda Been Dead' tour we are now in Mozambique, Africa. An amazing Country from what I have seen so far. Yesterday ...
Sunday, October 7, 2012
I know we can not trust anyone 100%, because people will let you down.
But one thing I have learned over the years is to give people the benefit of the doubt until they have proved that they are not good.
I am not saying to be a fool, but there are people in the world who are honest, who truly care, who want the best for others etc. You can not live your life being suspicious of everyone. It's about having good eyes. Choosing to see the best in others.
I don't care what anyone thinks, I have been messed over a lot in life, but I still choose to see the best in people.
I have been traveling a lot around the world recently, and I have meet many nice people. People who are truly good at heart (please don't go religious on me and start quoting "no one is good....").
There are people who don't even know you or have any obligation to you, but they treat you like you are someone worth caring for. And it shocked me sometimes. But this is a fact. I have meet many people that shocked me. They were so naturally kind and caring. And of course I have meet other really awful people, but I can't judge the rest of the world because of them.
In a nutshell, give everyone a fair chance.
Friday, September 28, 2012
Some people say that in the middle of the word believe is the word lie, so you can't really believe in anything, because the word itself has lie in the middle.
But if you take away the E (which to me stands for what EVERYONE else thinks) then believe becomes to BE, Live
Which means to not just say you believe it, but to BE it, meaning it has to be a part of who you are.
Don't just talk about what you "believe" in. And don't follow what everyone else thinks about your faith or belief (if it is right of course), but Be it an Live it. Let it drive you.
Just remember, you need to first get rid of the E (everyone else's opinions).
Thursday, September 27, 2012
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
This past Saturday, in Montego Bay Jamaica, we managed to gather about 1,000 youth for the Shoulda Been Dead event. So far we have done the event in many places, including 5 other countries, and it has always been well received.
But here in Jamaica was a bit different. As in other places, it was well received, but there is such a great need for this type of event here, that I have not seen until now. The youth all over the world are suffering, but the amount of youth suffering serious family problems here, astonished me.
There are so many young ladies who were raped by a family member or who are forced to sell their body, because the PARENT wants them to. Young guys who are being taught to get money, no matter how they have to get it... And many other things. This place, really needs help.
But besides the horrors of many youth in Jamaica, the country is also very beautiful, with many very polite and hospitable people. This trip so far has been extremely helpful.
Here are some highlights of the Montego Bay event.
Close to 1,000 youth gathered.
YPG Montego Bay
Youth Leader in Jamaica
Me together with the leader of the country
We found some identical twins. Both got the book.
Me and the Mrs. Tired after I finished signing books
A great performance by the youth there. It was "dance/poetry"
The event was extremely successful. I believe that many youth people made big decisions that day, to change their lives.
Please, keep your eyes on the page for more feedback from Jamaica. We have a big event this Saturday at Emancipation Park- Kingston Jamaica.
I hope to see you there.
Monday, September 24, 2012
Go to the link below and check out a nice article my wife wrote about Jamaica. It is really good. I will post something about this wonderful experience tomorrow.
In the kitchen with Elise: Jamaican cuisine and more: As I am here in Jamaica. I get the privilege of trying all types of Jamaican cuisine. I am being well fed by an excellent Jamaican cook '...
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Monday, September 10, 2012
Friday, September 7, 2012
To all of you who follow this blog, I have something very simple to say to you.
Life is not full of flowers and cupcakes everyday. Life has a tendency of throwing some good, some bad, and some downright ugly things at us.
So when you are having a good day... Be thankful, but also prepared. Because not everyday will be that way.
When you are having a bad day... Be patient, because tomorrow will come, and it will be better.
And when you're having a downright ugly day... Be strong, because character is made in moments of difficulty.
Fight against every thought that tries to convince you to live by how you feel. Feelings come and go, but determination breaks through the good, the bad and the ugly.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Here is the performance from the France Youth Group. It is about 10mins, but it tells a story through the dance. I really liked it. Check it out.
Friday, August 31, 2012
What's your biggest limitation?
What's your biggest fear?
What's the biggest threat that you face?
What's the scariest thing you know?
It's not death,
The most disastrous force that exist, outside of evil itself
is a subtle enemy called DOUBT.
Whether it's doubt about God or doubt about self,
it distracts, paralyzes and kills dreams and dreamers.
So watch out!
Do you believe you can do something?
Do you have faith that God is with you?
Are you ready to fight and pay the price for what you want?
So go ahead, dive in.
The mountain doesn't look so big from the top.
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Nearly a week ago, in one day we hit two cities back to back and spoke to about 25,000 youth. I teamed up with the "Where U Going" Team in Brazil (South America), who are better known as the "Dose Maid Forte" Team which literally means (A Stronger Dose). The idea is to raise awareness that drugs and crime are not the "strongest" or best way to solve your problems. There is a positive escape. And that is the direction that the Youth Power Group and I are aiming to share with people.
Check out some of the photos of the events below.
Below is a picture of Rio de Janeiro Brazil where 10,000 youth gathered to receive help to break free from drugs, crime, prostitution, etc. The response was amazing.
Below is a picture of Sao Paulo Brazil where the same event was held on the same day 5 hrs later, in a hall that fit 6,000. But the turn out was 15,000 so we had to put people in the parking area downstairs.
Here is the parking area filled with nearly 4,000 youth eager to hear the message story of my life and the message of hope.
Below is one happy youth member taking a picture after getting his book autographed.
The events on August 25th, 2012 were a great success. I only hope that there will be many more opportunities such as these to reach out to the masses and let them know that no matter how bad your life is, no matter how many terrible decisions you've made, no matter your past. There is a "Stronger Dose" available than any other drug. There is hope and there is a way out.
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Here is another video with some updates on how things are going over here in Brazil. To write everything out would take too long, so I decided to do a video. Check it out and leave your comments.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Sunday, August 19, 2012
I firmly believe that we should never forget the good examples that we see. This is the perfect example of what love really is. You don't just say you love someone, you do everything you can to help them in their time of greatest need. This is the right spirit.
Monday, August 6, 2012
First of all... DO NOT follow the above example!
Now with that being said... I was thinking about my last post (Just Calm Down) today, and I had an opportunity to apply my own advice.
I was here preparing for a trip out of the country and suddenly I realized how many things need to get done before I go. But the catch is that I only have a day left before I travel. So I had two choices:
A) freak out and go into a frenzy trying to fix everything at once
B) Calm down and do one thing at a time
Thankfully I chose option B. I calmed down, and focused on one thing at a time. And funny enough, I got many more things done that I thought I would. Including finding time to write this blog.
So take my word on this one. You can take control of your life and your day and see great things happen. Just do it.
P.S. I know this wasn't really about taking your own advice, but I took my own, so you should get the point. What you tell others to do, make sure you do it too.
Friday, July 27, 2012
You see this picture... Look at this child for a moment... Does this baby look stressed or worried???
No way. This child looks at peace. Oh, if us bigger people could learn to have the same peace throughout our busy lives.
I have a word of advice for you today. Some days are going to be hectic and full of obligations to fulfill, deadlines to meet, school work to turn it, etc. And on those days it feels like there just isn't enough hours in the day. But in spite of the busy rat-race called life that we live in, we need to learn to calm down.
Stressing yourself out is not going to solve things any quicker.
So when there are 1,000 things to do and 5 minutes to do them (or so it seems), just take a deep breath, calm down and think... "What do I need to do first"? "What is the priority (meaning it CAN NOT go undone)"? And do that. You can not fix the whole world in one minute. So focus on what you can do.
Now this is very important... What about if you don't finish everything today?
That's what tomorrow is for.
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Legendary fighter Bruce Lee once said this about his fighting style Jeet Kune Do:
"Approach Jeet Kune Do with the idea of mastering the will. Forget about winning and losing; forget about pride and pain. Let your opponent graze your skin and you smash into his flesh; let him smash into your flesh and you fracture his bones; let him fracture your bones and you take his life! Do not be concerned with your escaping safely – lay your life before him!"
The idea is if you get hit, strike harder. So I am not promoting physical retaliation. What I am using this quote to say, is when life hits us hard or when evil hits us hard... we have to strike back even harder. We can not bend or break or cower. We must fight, strike back and believe that we will win. Do not worry about the pain you may have to suffer, pain comes with sacrifice. Pain comes with battle. Pain is a part of any war. So the war for a better life is no different. It will come with some pain. But strike back, and strike hard.
Look at Bruce Lee in the picture above... Does he look afraid?
If he wasn't afraid to fight people, why should we be afraid to fight for our lives?
Monday, July 23, 2012
Something I have never liked and I try to avoid doing myself, is judging others about things that I still do.
What I mean is, no one is perfect. And that is no excuse to be horrible, but we need to stop acting like we are better than people. We are not better than anyone else. You are you, and they are who they are. So don't allow a desire to help someone, turn into an opportunity to criticize or judge.
And even if you are going to tell someone they need to fix something... make sure that you have fixed it yourself or at least are in the process of fixing it.
I just honestly think people need to check themselves before checking others. That is the only way things will work out right. And even if you are doing well, then there is no need to smear it in anyones face. Just be happy that you are doing ok and move on. Keep doing good. But let us learn to treat each other with fairness and care. And never stop being willing to help another get better. Just do it the right way.
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Today I was watching some young people practice for a play that they will perform on Sunday. And as I watched I began to think, they have been doing this for one month already, every other day or so, coming to practice for this play.. and it still needs a little work.
That is interesting, because in life we normally want everything fast. We don't like to wait or work hard for anything. But we need to. To get the best out of something, it may take time. You may have to wait and go through the course of fighting for it for a while.
Any sports team will tell you that. They practice day after day, doing drill after drill, just to make sure that it comes natural to them (whatever they need to improve on).
And what about the rest of us average people? Shouldn't we practice the things that will help us better ourselves time and time again. I think so.
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
I strongly believe you should push yourself harder than anyone else pushes you.
Harder than your teacher,
Harder than your boss,
Harder than your parents,
Harder than your spouse,
Harder than coach,
Harder than your leader,
Harder than personal trainer,
Harder than the motivational DVD,
Harder than the self help books,
Harder than the music drives you,
Harder than the voice of your persecutors.
Harder than anything or anyone can push you...
You have to push you.
Victory is within grasp, but you have to push.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Take a few minutes and check out this video.
If this guy can take a GAME so serious, why do so many people find it so hard to take life serious. And commit to things, and sacrifice to make there dreams come true?
That is a question only you can answer.
Friday, June 29, 2012
Don't live your life being afraid of being alone or going it alone.
There is a strength in you to fight harder when you are alone. You will not die, or break, or cave in. You will become even stronger.
I am not talking about cutting off all contact with people, but the moments when no one else can or is willing to help you. You have to help yourself. You have to make good decisions and be strong enough to fight through the storm. The storm will end, it will pass and you will win. Just keep going.
The secret is to not bury your head in the sand and quit. Keep fighting. Go it alone if you have to. But know that a one man army is better than a team full of cowards.
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Friday, June 22, 2012
I wrote a message a week or so ago call "Get back in the Saddle". It was talking about getting back up after being knocked down.
Well, I think in this moment, with the NBA Finals victory still a bit fresh, this message is appropriate. The story of LeBron James in this years Finals victory is just that. A "get back in the saddle" type of performance.
Can you imagine leaving a team that you gave recognition (Cavaliers) that just so happen to be in your hometown and going to join two other stars, then promising success and being criticized every step of the way, but almost reaching that success, then at the end choking (meaning freezing up and not taking advantage of the moment) and being defeated in the most embarrassing way, by a team much older and supposedly far less talented than you? And having to endure a summer full of ruthless, relentless verbal assault against you as a player and your character? Can you imagine the mental strain that puts on a person?
But how do you bounce back? You need to first off, humble yourself and recognize that some of the criticism is true, then decide to change those things and keep your mouth shut from then on and let your actions speak louder than your words. That is what LeBron did. I can not say if or if not he will win another title. But he got this one, how, by doing a gut check and deciding to bounce back.
The whole team actually had to do that. And you will have to do that in life. There will be times when the pressure seems to hard to bear, and you will need to bounce back. To check your heart and your will and resolve and go after that dream or goal. There is no failure that you can not learn from. No defeat that can not teach you. No loss that can not help you to learn how to gain.
Do this, and you too will become a CHAMPION.
I'm not writing this blog post because I am a Miami Heat supporter (though I am). But because of something that I thought about after watching this years NBA Finals.
As I was watching the Finals, I remembered last year (when I also had a chance to watch them) and the difference in the attitudes. Last year D-Wade, Bosh and especially LeBron seemed more arrogant. As he said in his own words "I thought I had to prove something...". And when you come out and play with that attitude, you lose. Because arrogance gets you nowhere. They were like a bunch of high school jocks who wanted to impress the school.
But this time was different. If you notice, each game he had a serious look in his face, he seemed focused, not overly confident, not full of himself, not much show-boating, just pure focus. Focus on one goal, one objective, to WIN. And they got it done!
Now my point to all of you is this. Sometimes in life, we need to learn hard lessons. We need to lose, or go through disappointment in order to bounce back. It adds character to us (if we let it). Sometimes we need to be broken in order to be built up again. And that is what happened with the stars of the Miami Heat. They were broken last year, and they bounced back and rebuilt. That is what you must do it life.
Don't let a bad attitude destroy you. Don't let pride consume you. Don't let rudeness be your way. Be focused on your dream, but leave the celebration for AFTER you have achieved the ultimate goal. Until then, stay quiet. And the victory will be all the more sweet.
(I will write more on this subject on my next post)
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Listen... It's impossible to never mess up or fail or fall off of something that you started. You will go through moments of downs. Just like there will be moments of ups. But one thing you must learn to do is always get back in the saddle as quick as possible.
Don't waste time crying or whimpering over what coulda, shoulda or woulda been. Deal with each day as it comes. If you messed something up yesterday, but you woke up this morning, then there is time to fix what was broken. You have to see that life is a series of moments. When a moment comes you need to embrace it. When a serious moment or opportunity comes, jump at it. Including the opportunity to start over.
That is the interesting thing about new days, each one is like a clean slate if you choose for it to be. No one can make you carry the past. Even if they throw your failures in your face, you choose to either listen to their words or ignore and reject them.
So when it comes to falling down and making mistakes, the most important thing is not the mistake, but how you react to it. You need to get back in the saddle and fight again. Quickly.
Friday, June 15, 2012
In the last two weeks I had the opportunity to travel to 3 countries that I have never been to.
It wasn't a vacation, but to hold events to help the young people of those countries. The events really went great, but that is not what I want to talk about right now. What I wanna talk about is the people I met.
In most of those countries I came in contact and in some cases even ate with and stayed with people who I do not know at all. But they are apart of the same organization that I am a part of. And the funny thing is, that in every place, they were different people, different nationalities, different ages, but all showed the same love, care and friendliness. I mean, I truly met some of the friendliest, most welcoming people I have ever known.
So what is my point exactly???
The point is, what if I had gone there with a judgmental attitude like, these people don't know me, so I will not be nice to them? Or I will not speak much, because I don't know what they like. I would have missed an opportunity to gain new relationships that may last a lifetime.
So the moral is, do not judge people just because you don't know them. Or you are from a different city, state or country. Give everyone a fair chance, and you will meet some truly great people.
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
For those who wonder why I do what I do? Or what is the gain or reward in it? Well, it's not money, it's not for recognition, it's not to make a name for myself.
This is why I do what I do: These are the ones that count the most.
" I can't believe that if I didn't start school on April 18 th and went to your book signing I wouldn't be thinking about changing so fast and so quick. I mean right now I would be working the streets and god knows what else. I wouldn't be trying to go into the right path. I would have been dreaming and saying it with no action or motivation."
Anonymous- (Name intentionally withheld)
This is why this work means so much to me. If we can touch one, we have made progress.
This is what makes my heart beat each day. The chance to touch another life. I thank God for each one of those opportunities.
Sunday, June 3, 2012
Guys, I don't have anything "deep" to say today, but one thing I just want to say is; what a joy it is to be doing the right thing with your life. To be building lives instead of destroying them. To be saving lives instead of taking them. To be helping people, instead of not caring. It is the most incredible life one could live.
I travel all over the country (US) and the world and don't feel paranoid that someone wants to kill me because I did them wrong. If anyone doesn't like me, that is because they are just persecuting me (which i don't mind). But to know I am doing no one any wrong, really gives me peace.
So my advice to you is to think about where you are going with your life. What are you aiming for? What is the purpose of your life? What are your goals and dreams? Who are you affecting with your life? More than that, who are you impacting? And I mean for good. These are questions that are extremely important to ask yourself.
I really hope you know the answers.
Saturday, May 26, 2012
Disclaimer: First of all, let me clarify that this post is in no way intended to offend anyone who is gay, or to take a jab at them. I would also like to note that my opinions do not reflect the opinion of anyone or any organization that I am linked to. These are solely my points of view.
With that being said, I just want to share something that has been really nagging me recently.
I have noticed that a lot of people who consider themselves gay, tend to look for a person of the same sex, who actually looks like someone from the opposite sex. What I mean is, I have seen men, looking for other men who actually dress and look like women. I have also seen women, looking for other women, who actually look and dress like men. So this is where my question derives from... Are you really gay?
I mean, in my eyes, someone who is gay, is someone who likes a person of the same sex who looks acts and carries themselves as the sex that they are. Simply put, a man who likes men who look, walk, talk and act like men. Or vice-versa.
But if you are a women and you are looking for another women who actually acts, looks, walks, talks, etc. like a man, then are you actually gay, or are you really looking for a man who will care for you LIKE a women? And in the same way, if you are a man that is looking for a man that looks like a women, are you sure that you are into men, or do you want a women who will understand you and your needs LIKE another man?
As I said, I am in NO way trying to offend anyone, but this question has been in my head for a while. And what I think (my opinion) is that in these cases, the person is not truly gay, they are more confused than anything. They really want the opposite sex, but they want the love, care or understanding that someone from the same sex "may" be able to give, because they are wired the same.
But in those cases, the person may need to be more patient and believe that they can find someone of the opposite sex that has the qualities that they are looking for. Since that is what they really want. And don't think that you have to follow the flow of society that says there are "no good men out there, so to find care it has to be with another women". Or that "women just want you for your money and they have no respect, so you need another man who will treat you like you want to be treated". Neither of these statements are facts or are they true. The truth is, that there are a lot of good men and women out there, and that sure heterosexual relationships are hard, but they can work. You just need that right structure and foundation.
So that's it for today, I just wanted to give you something to think about.
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Friday, May 18, 2012
Listen, it doesn't matter who it is... if someone is advising you to do something that will hurt you, you need to tell them NO.
Our life is made up of each and every decision we make. Each decision is like a seed we are planting on very fertile soil. So even if you think it was just one, it can still develop into something big over time. You can't afford to follow bad advice. That is why you should be careful who you go to to seek advice. If they are not a reliable source (and when I say reliable, I don't mean someone who will say what you wanna hear, I mean someone who will tell you what's right), don't trust their advice.
I have been hearing more and more disappointing stories of young people who were persuaded by people they should have been able to trust, to do something horrible, something that would definitely bring them down. And why did they do it, because they thought that they could trust that person. It's just not worth it. It can be the person you love the most, and if what they are saying is completely wrong, you have got to make a choice to not follow it.
At the end of the day, you only live once, and why destroy the one life you have, because of someone else's bad advice.