Say NO to them

Listen, it doesn't matter who it is... if someone is advising you to do something that will hurt you, you need to tell them NO.

Our life is made up of each and every decision we make. Each decision is like a seed we are planting on very fertile soil. So even if you think it was just one, it can still develop into something big over time. You can't afford to follow bad advice. That is why you should be careful who you go to to seek advice. If they are not a reliable source (and when I say reliable, I don't mean someone who will say what you wanna hear, I mean someone who will tell you what's right), don't trust their advice.

I have been hearing more and more disappointing stories of young people who were persuaded by people they should have been able to trust, to do something horrible, something that would definitely bring them down. And why did they do it, because they thought that they could trust that person. It's just not worth it. It can be the person you love the most, and if what they are saying is completely wrong, you have got to make a choice to not follow it.

At the end of the day, you only live once, and why destroy the one life you have, because of someone else's bad advice.

I can't get my head around this...

This morning I was checking my emails and I stumbled across a story on yahoo about a woman who had a heart attack after eating a burger called a "double bypass" at a restaurant called The "HEART ATTACK" Grill, that has a sign on the front of the door saying "our food is bad for your health".

Now honestly, my heart (no pun intended) goes out to the women. I wish that on no one. But shouldn't you take a hint from the name of the restaurant, or if not that the name of the burger itself, and if not that, the warning sign on the door.

But my blog is not about this woman. May she recover quickly. But in life I find that this kind of thing happens many times. For example the cigarette packs in the picture above... It clearly says "smoking kills", yet does that stop people from burning up their money on them? No. It's like you are paying to kill yourself! That is ridiculous. And by the way, I am an ex-smoker so I have the right to speak on it.

I just think people need to think more. Don't just think about the pleasure that thing will give you, but think about the consequence. Think about how much that may cost you, and it may curve the desire for it.

I guess I am no one to force you to do anything. But you do have a choice. And in the case of cigarettes, if you don't want to listen..... you could always wait until you end up like this (below).

Life is like a box of Chocolates...

Some of you may remember this one. The famous line from the movie Forest Gump...

"Life is like a box of chocolates... you never know what you're gonna get".

This was a line repeated time and time again. And in a sense it's very true. You don't know what you're gonna get outta life. You can't decide each and every thing that will happen from day to day. But you can have a big impact on what you get outta life. You can make good, strategic (meaning thoughtful) decisions each day that more than likely will decide what happens tomorrow.

If you just say, I don't know what I will get outta life, so I might as well not put too much effort into it, you are just setting yourself up for failure. Just because you can't guess the whole future, doesn't mean you shouldn't plan. You absolutely should plan, think, make decisions, and drive your own life, never following those who will lead you the wrong way.

So sure, life is like a box of chocolates, and sure you may not know exactly what you're gonna get. But you can decide to buy or not buy those chocolates each day. And you can be smart enough to read the label, so you may know whats inside (think of the consequences of your actions or decisions). Then you will know.... "what you're gonna get."

Get back on track

You can't control everything that life will throw at you. Sometimes things unexpected will happen. But you have to be prepared for whatever. And don't let yourself get off track.

There are times when you will get disappointed or feel frustrated or feel like you failed. But that is all a part of life. The most important thing you can do when that happens is get up, dust yourself off, and get back on track.

That is truly the key. You can get sidetracked, but as soon as you notice it, get back on track and do it fast. That way you will never be diverted for too long, and you will hold on to your goals.

Is it SAFE?

I have a question for you who are reading this...

Is it safe, to hang around negative people if you are trying to be positive?

Is it? Is it safe to say, "I won't do what they do, we are just cool, just friends"?

Is it safe to assume that you will be strong enough to resist the peer pressure when a friend wants to get high and you look like the lame for not wanting to?

Is it safe to think you can be in the room with that girl or guy alone and not take it any further?

Is it safe to totally ignore your studies and hope that you will be able to cram everything in during the last few months or sometimes weeks of school?

Is it safe to put all types of substances in your body and guess that you should be strong enough to handle it?

Is it safe, to play with your life???

Learn the hard way

Remember, the "class clown" today... Will be the OLD clown tomorrow.

P.S. That goes for at school, work and in life period. Either take it seriously or it will be taken from you. One day, we will all have to give account for what we've done. Life is not a game, so don't play with it.

No Words Can Explain

No words can explain...

How good it feels to do something you enjoy, and know that it is something good.

No words can explain...

The feeling a mother has when she stares her new born child in the eyes for the first time.

No words can explain...

The peace you feel after you get very bad news, then get a call saying everything turned out fine.

No words can explain...

The excitement felt on your wedding day, when you stare your future spouse in the face, knowing this is the beginning of a lifetime together.

No words can explain...

The happiness you feel, when you do something good for someone and they show appreciation for it.

But there are also, no words to explain...

How disappointing it is, to see someone step off of the right path, into the path of destruction.

No words can explain...

The the hurt of being betrayed.

No words can explain...

The emptiness of being alone.

And no words can explain...

The reality of not having a place to call home.

There are so many things in life that words can not explain.

But if you really understood everything...

Would you be living?

Life is full of surprises, some good, and some bad.

But in the end, it's just "life", it didn't create itself.

And "life" will be, whatever YOU make it.

Don't Sugar-Coat it...

I don't know about all of you who read this, but I know about me...

When someone has something to say to me, I would rather they say it straight, just like it is, than to beat around the bush. I know it doesn't feel good to hear things raw and uncut, but it is far better than someone trying to smile in your face, whilst feeling something in their heart.

That just doesn't make sense.

And worst than holding it in, is to sugar-coat it so that it sounds softer or easier to swallow. I can't stand that! If you have a problem, just say it already. Don't act like it is smaller than what it really felt like to you. I may not like or agree with what you are saying, but I want to know that that is how you feel.

And a real man or woman is like this; they don't look for the softest way out. They are strong enough to take the punch and keep their head up. I believe this is the best type of person to deal with. The one that will give you the truth, even when it hurts, and mean the absolute best by doing it.

You just need to be tough enough to take it. So you who are reading this, should stop being soft and sensitive and grow some thicker skin. Take what is dished out and deal with it. You will become stronger and better by doing that.