Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Can't you just SHUT UP!

Have you ever noticed how great most people are at giving "advice"? Sorry, let me make a correction... I meant, BAD ADVICE.

If you want someone to tell you what they think you need to do with your life, you don't need to go far. Just pick a random friend or family member and they will be more than happy to oblige.

But the frustrating thing is, people love to tell you what you need to do to fix your life, but they can't seem to apply the same advice they give, toward their own life.

You know, the thing that gets me though, is how willing us as a people are to run to others who can't help themselves, and ask them what their opinion is about our life struggles. But what since does that make?

I was in the barber shop recently, when a guy walked in. The guy basically looked a mess, and the stuff he was talking about was a mess too. The point is, as he sat in the barber chair across from me to get his hair cut, I couldn't help but hear him start giving the barber so-called "advice". Talking about "why black people don't succeed, and what everyone needs to do to make it". Sure he made a few good points, but do you really want to listen to someone who has a bunch of knowledge, but no power to use it? Why give ear to someone who doesn't have the first clue of how to apply what he knows? Of course not! What you really want to say to that person is "can't you just shut up". And why? Because you want to learn from someone who is successful at what they are telling you to do.

And this is exactly why we all should be more than just a little upset with the way our lives are going. Can you say that your life screams for attention? I mean, without you saying a word, does your life grab others attention, due to how successful it is. This can be in marriage, at work, at school, in you neighborhood, etc. Do people look at you like the guy from the movie Pursuit of Happiness, and say "what do you do, and how do you do it?" Probably not. And that is the problem.

You believe in God, you know some good things. You may even be able to tell others how to solve problems. But what about your own? If you are still living a sub-par life, then you need to get angry enough to do something about it. As long as you accept it, you will always have it. You have to refuse what is less than great, and fight for better.

And please, if you don't have something yourself, to back up the advice that you are giving, please, just don't give it.

It's like the old saying goes "put up or shut up". In simple terms, that means either DO something, or STOP talking.

1 comment:

  1. This is very true and people seem to have it in their blood line to want to advise someone or look at someone else's life and see what he/she can improve in but the truth is that if your life is not up to parr as they say. Then you are obviously doing something wrong. Need to take a look at your life and see what needs to be corrected and changed then you can comment and advise others. Those who speak and whose life is upside down are embarrassing themselves and no one wants to be like them. That is why we need Gods help to change our lives for the better in order to then advise. Thank you for this blog it is very helpful in helping us notice what side of the fence we are on.